Filmsane

All, right you’ve probably heard the news. Academy Award winner, one of the most gorgeous women on the planet and Empress Furiosa herself, Charlize Theron has been single for quite a while and is ready for not just a date, but a relationship as well.

And all I can say is that I feel you girl. I really do. Of course I’m not a Hollywood actress (Oscar winning of that). I’m not by any means rich, tall, statuesque, beautiful and blonde but prior finding my Martin I was single for a very long time. And I do mean very long time.

Yes, and I also understand that her comments were meant for PR purposes and a little bit of self-pity, but I complained about my single status a lot. And I do mean a lot.

And I also understand that by being a celebrity she’s guarded, sheltered and isolated by her own circle of celebrity friends, acquaintances and dating prospects, but it’s heartbreaking for any woman to go through solitude. And like I’ve mentioned before. I’ve been there. It doesn’t matter how rich and famous you are, it always sucks to go to bed alone. It always sucks not having the opportunity to love and be loved in return.

But over the past few days, since reading about her struggle (let’s put it that way), I’ve read countless comments from both men and women. And they ranged in both sides of the spectrum. Some were well meaning and encouraging. Some were questioning her honesty about not having any dating prospect, and the comments on the far right side were well… far right.

Wow an unmarried liberal leftie in her mid-40’s, that’s also a single mother to two black children can’t scare up a date. Shocking.

It’s always that. The fact that she decided to adopt two children as a single mom. That’s the biggest issue in the right wing troll’s mind. The fact that she’s singlehandedly rising and supporting two children is supposed to be a source of shame? Yeah, I don’t think so. She’s rich, talented and independent. I she chooses to have 10 adopted children, she’s damn well entitled to. There are plenty of single/divorced men that have children. Are they un-datable as well?

I didn’t think so.

But I suppose it’s harder to date when you’re famous. The circle of friends, acquaintances and potential partners gets narrower and narrower and I suppose there are different rules. I couldn’t tell really. I’ve never been rich nor famous. I couldn’t relate to that. Nor I can relate to the single mother part. I’m yet to have children, so it’s hard for me to comment on that too.

But I’ve been single for a long time (roughly as much as she’s been) and I know how hard it could get. The loneliness is the worst. The fact that everyone around you is getting engaged, married or is simply in love is killing you. You want that as well, but damn it those things are so hard to come by.

Thankfully I got lucky. I found my love and I truly hope that she will too. Everyone deserves to be loved.